How to Start a Conversation Over Text

The best opener usually gives the other person an obvious reason to know why you are messaging and an easy path to answer.

Reference something real

Shared context beats a random performance. Bring back a topic, joke, place or recommendation from when you met.

Ask questions that have texture

Instead of stacking generic questions, ask about something specific enough to invite a story or opinion. Then respond to the answer before asking another question.

Avoid manufacturing urgency

You do not need to provoke a response. Send a message that stands on its own, then give the other person room to answer.

Build momentum

Once she responds, move to our conversation momentum guide.